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Healthy or unhealthy relationship. How can you tell the difference?


What is a healthy relationship? A healthy relationship is based on trust and respect.

It’s when…

  • You feel safe
  • You are able to express your thoughts and feelings
  • You listen to each other
  • You feel like you can be yourself
  • You enjoy spending time together
  • You trust each other
  • You are there for each other
  • You try and help one another during hard times
  • You can have different opinions and interests
  • You can compromise, apologize and talk things out
  • You can say “No” to things you don’t want to do
  • You don’t have to spend all your time together
  • In a healthy relationship, you feel valued, respected, safe and free to be yourself.


In unhealthy relationships, you…

  • Are not able to be yourself
  • Are scared to disagree
  • Feel fearful and threatened
  • Feel isolated and alone
  • Feel the person doesn’t respect when you say “no”
  • Are hurt physically
  • Are hurt sexually
  • Are being blamed for his/her behaviour
  • Are being yelled at all the time, constantly criticized, often feeling embarrassed and humiliated
  • Feel that s/he is jealous, possessive and controlling
  • Are being lied to
  • Are being told that you are wrong, stupid, crazy, or worthless
  • Feel you have to change yourself in order to make the relationship work… please, get help!