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The number one relationship to foster a healthy dynamic is with yourself! On this journey called life, we have so many people who come through to make their mark in our lives. Some of these people bring the sweetest experiences into our conscious and some of these people trigger our deepest struggles. Regardless of the roles they play, the one constant, is us.
If loving yourself first seems like a foreign concept, that is your first signal that there is some work to do. You may find that your life is not where you want it. That includes relationships of all kinds, your professional life and how good you feel about your personal life. If you feel overwhelmed at the prospect of loving yourself, or even have a hard time believing you can, take a breath. Who in your life makes you feel good? That is a great indicator of who may be a trusted and safe connection to make, to talk about your feelings, and brainstorm with on how to start the process. Also, consider going to counselling or seeing a therapist. Having a helping professional who can assist in your healing and growth process, may be the biggest act of self love you can give yourself! Check out mindyourmind.ca's Help section to learn more about what this process can look like!
There is a statement I once heard that bluntly said “Get new friends”. It has always stuck with me, and I share it often with people. To me, that statement holds deep impact as I have learned in all my years, that the people we spend the most time with influence our current realities the most. Who are YOUR group of people? What are they doing for themselves to reach their goals? If you have someone in your circle who is doing the work in their life, and you can see they are making strides (regardless of how big or small they are) then THAT is the person you want to start carving out more time for. Also...get new friends! Really look at what people are doing in their lives and know that you deserve to have friendships and relationships that bring you growth and to your own next level. We can’t do that if we’re still chumming with people who are not making any movement. It’s not harsh. It’s not rude. It’s not mean. It’s self love! We don’t have to be disrespectful in the process.
Take some time today to reflect on your life and the desires of your heart. Consider believing that you deserve to have your dreams come true and be willing to begin the walk toward making them into reality! Add some self-love into your life by being mindful and purposeful about who you let in! One of the best ways to show yourself love is to spend time with people who make us feel good, who want the best for us, who tell us the truth, and help us grow!
Carolyn is a passionate advocate for self awareness and personal growth and is loving her role as curriculum developer at mindyourmind! She is originally a child and youth care practitioner who has worked front line with children, youth, and their families. Carolyn is enjoying where life is taking her and cannot wait to see what happens next!
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