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Your Own Personal Timeline

Let’s be real, life is not easy. But we often make it harder for ourselves by comparing our progress to everyone else’s. Many of us, including myself, compare our journeys’ to others’. We are quick to think that we’ve failed or that we’re not good enough, if we haven’t met a milestone or accomplished a certain task. 

When in fact, everyone has their own personal timeline. 

I’ve been doing a lot of self-reflection (well more like overthinking) around this topic and I’ve come to the realization that it’s not just me who thinks and feels this way. People of all ages and life stages can relate! Knowing this helps me to slow down and realign myself. It helps me to consider what other people might be experiencing in the present and what they have experienced in the past. Most importantly, it encourages me to stay hopeful. I am trying to tell myself more frequently that I will get to where I need to go, one way or another, so keep going and breathing. 

There are a lot of things I haven’t done or learned yet, that others have, but there are also a lot of things that I have done and learned that others haven’t. I’m trying to not let this idea control or scare me but to excite me. Recognizing my privilege while allowing myself to be proud of my accomplishments is also a part of this equation. 

It truly does not matter how long it takes you to finish school, learn to drive, get a job, fall in love, buy a house, have kids (or whatever else people are feeling the need and immense pressure to do these days) etc. because we all get to where we need to be in the end. 

So why does it matter if it takes you longer than everyone else? 

There’s no need to rush through life, in order to catch up to everyone else. Take your time and enjoy each step that you take. 

And remember, it’s okay to give yourself credit for how far you’ve come and what you’ve needed to do to get yourself there. Not everyone has had to manage the obstacles you’ve had to face. 

Go about life at a pace that is right for YOU, not anybody else. Growth does not happen overnight, so be patient and kind to yourself.

Check out "When Your Friends Are in Different Stages of Life Than You, a blog from Talkspace for more related content.