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Suicide is a troubling topic that most of us would rather not deal with, but suicide is a reality, and it is more common than we would like to think.
- More than 3,500 Canadians kill themselves each year.
- 1 in every 25 Canadians attempts suicide during his or her lifetime.
- A 1994 United Nations study over a three-year period found Canada's suicide rate for children and youth under 21 to be among the highest in the world.
Many times suicidal actions are a desperate "cry for help" and many suicides can be prevented. By paying attention to warning signs and talking about the "unthinkable," you may be able to prevent a death.
Most people who attempt suicide are ambivalent about taking their own life, but their circumstances might make them feel that life is unbearable or that they "deserve" to die. Suicide can seem like the only way to deal with their problems because they have an extreme sense of hopelessness, helplessness and depression. Some of the factors that may lead a person to attempt suicide are:
- feelings of isolation
- having a serious physical illness
- having severe mental illness
- experiencing a major loss (death of a loved one, unemployment or divorce)
- addiction or substance use
- experiencing major changes in life
- prolonged depression with harmful or negative thought patterns
- post-partum depression
- a history of abuse, neglect, or trauma
- being in an abusive relationship
Some people who kill themselves do not give any warning at all. However, many offer clues or statements to those around them. Individuals expressing suicidal intentions should always be taken seriously. Some of the signs to look out for are:
- direct statements about suicide such as "I want to die," or indirect threats such as "You would be better off without me"
- personality changes or withdrawn behaviour
- hoarding medication
- giving away prized possessions
- lack of interest in future plans
- isolation from friends and colleagues
- sudden decrease in levels of hygiene
Some signals that indicate imminent danger for a person expressing a desire to suicide are if they are isolated, have attempted suicide in the past, have a plan for how they will kill themselves and have the means to do so (weapons, drugs).
Suicide is a taboo subject, yet talking about it openly is helpful. A person contemplating suicide needs the support of people who listen and care. If you are concerned that someone you know may be suicidal, take action.
- Find a place to talk where the person feels comfortable, they need to know that you respect their need for privacy.
- Encourage the individual to express their feelings freely – the single most important thing you can do is to listen attentively without judgment.
- Ask them whether they have considered suicide – bringing up the subject will not cause them to act upon it.
- When someone tells you they are going to attempt suicide, it can be scary for both you and them. Stay calm, be honest and tell them about your concern for them – they need to know that someone cares.
- Ask them what you or someone else can do to keep them safe and help them through this.
- Talk about the resources that can support them – family, friends, clergy, counselling or psychiatric treatment.
- Let them know that you are there to support them, but also know your limits – you don't have to do it alone. Taking care of yourself while helping a friend through a hard time is important.
- Download Be Safe to help you make decisions in a crisis.
It may seem like there is no light at the end of the tunnel, and asking others for help or talking about your feelings can seem like a daunting task. However, if you reach out, you will discover that there is help and that you are not alone. Many people have felt suicidal when facing difficult times and have survived their struggle, and even thrived. If you have these feelings but don't plan to act on them, you should:
- talk to a trusted friend or family member about your feelings.
- call a crisis telephone support line.
- talk to your family physician; they can arrange for counselling and/or prescribe medication to help you feel better.
- get involved in a self-help group and talk to people who have "been there".
- understand that you are not in the best shape to make major decisions, so just focus on the here and now.
- check out our Help Section for more tips and advice
If you do plan to act on your feelings, please get help immediately by doing one of the following (for guidance with this, go to our Crisis Page):
- call 911 or your local Emergency Response Service
- go to the nearest Emergency Hospital
Remember you are not alone. Reaching out for help and knowing where to go for positive support can keep you and others safe. You may want to contact your family physician, the CMHA Ontario Division toll free at 1-800-875-6213, your spiritual advisor, the local crisis intervention centre or the Mood Disorders Association of Ontario at 416-486-8046.
Facts about mental health issues and illnesses. It is not meant to replace a doctor’s advice. Please consult a medical professional.