Building Positive Self-Esteem

It's easy to get down on yourself when things don't go as planned. The important thing is how you react and how you feel about yourself afterwards.

  • Treat yourself like a friend. Whenever you feel like being critical, be supportive and loving instead.

  • Make a list of things you love about yourself. Whenever you feel bad, look at it and focus on your strengths.

  • Accept when you make mistakes. Rather than belittling yourself, focus on improving yourself for next time.

  • Try not to project your worries on others. You might think the worst of yourself, but most people won't notice.

  • Speak to others respectfully and expect the same in return. Tell people if you are offended by what they say.

  • Set realistic goals and reassess them as needed. Don't beat yourself up for expectations that were unreachable.

  • It's okay to be disappointed in yourself sometimes but realize your self worth isn't your grades or your job.

  • Keep a book of positive notes for when you're feeling down. Look back on past accomplishments.

  • Asking for help is not a sign of weakness -- it's a sign of strength and willingness to grow. Be proud.

  • Don't rely on others to build self-worth. Congratulate and reward yourself for good work, even if no one notices.

  • Borrow a library book about self-confidence. Feeling informed can be a great way to increase confidence.

  • Respect yourself and your values. Surround yourself with people who do the same.

  • Try to eat better. What you put in your body affects your mood and how you feel about yourself.

  • Credit yourself for your efforts. Even if you don't achieve a goal, congratulate yourself for trying valiantly.

  • Changing how you see yourself will not happen overnight-- accept that this is a lifetime goal. You're on your way!

  • Take time to celebrate your achievements. Even if it's something little, it can have a huge effect.

  • Everyone struggles with esteem sometimes, even people who pretend they don't care. You are not alone.

  • Focus on having fun. Don't let your fears hold you back from participating and doing the things you love.

  • Be patient with others and don't put them down. Change your reaction to others; change your reaction to yourself.

  • Don't let one negative thought spiral into others. One bad grade means you did bad once; that's all. It’s from our mistakes that we learn the most. 

  • Live in the present. Tomorrow might be better or worse, but the best you can do is prepare for today.

  • Let yourself feel your negative emotions, but don't get swept up in it. Emotions should come and go.

  • Accept the things you can't change. Focus on what you can do to improve and leave the negative behind.

  • Silence your inner critic. If your first thought is a negative one, try re-framing and hoping for the best.

  • You have weaknesses, and that's okay! You are still worthy in spite of your faults. Never forget it.

  • Try new things. Take pride in your new skills and the effort you dedicated to improving.

  • Think in the 3rd person. It's silly, but people are more forgiving of others. Calling yourself by name CAN help!

  • Help someone who needs it. You might find that making a difference makes you feel better about yourself.

  • Exercise for the emotional payoff. Moving around doing something you love and don't belittle your efforts.

  • Repeat positive phrases to yourself daily. Over time, you'll start to believe them and see your own worth.