Coping with Change and Transition

#Change can be hard. Follow #mymTips for some insight into how you can cope and maybe even thrive during transitions! 

  • When facing a transition, make a list of things you can and can't control. Carry it with you as a reminder or "perspective check".

  • Lack of communication leads to fear. When change happens, ask questions & keep communication lines open.

  • To cope with change, plan some self-care activities along the way. eg "Today I'll pack my desk & then treat myself to ice cream!".

  • List the fears you have about change. For each, think "How likely is this? What can I control? What will I do if this happens?".

  • Be an active part of the change that is happening. Commit to joining a new group, leading an activity, researching what's next.

  • Change is disruptive. Why might this be a good thing? eg: "We have to move, but our old home was too far from school anyway".

  • When a big change is happening, focusing on the day-to-day and something you can control can help you cope and distract you.

  • Starting at a new school? Do some research to get ready! Find out what books are covered, what sports, teams, clubs are there.

  • "Growth is painful, change is painful, but nothing is as painful as staying stuck somewhere you don't belong." - Mandy Hale

  • Making time for relaxation in your daily routine can be helpful in coping with change. eg: yoga, a mindful walk, meditation.

  • When applicable, set SMART (Specific, Measurable, Achievable, Realistic, Time-oriented) goals to consciously guide the change.

  • It's okay to feel overwhelmed and anxious about change. Acknowledge, not avoid, these feelings so that you can work through them.

  • Reassure yourself throughout the change, eg: "I may not like this change, but I can get through it!".

  • Seek out people who have experienced/are experiencing a similar change and transition, see what did and didn't help them.

  • Starting a new semester at school? Scan their social media profiles to find out about that school's culture & strengths.

  • Change comes in all sizes, don't be afraid to seek professional help just because your situation doesn't seem "severe enough".

  • Carry affirmations in your wallet for when change becomes overwhelming, eg; "I've survived changes before and I can do it again."

  • "Progress is impossible without change and those who cannot change their minds cannot change anything." -George Bernard Shaw

  • Learn deep-breathing techniques for when change feels overwhelming: inhale 4 sec, hold for 7, exhale for 8.

  • During a change or transition, journal about what you're finding helpful so you can refer to it next time you're struggling.

  • Take care of yourself during change, by staying on top of your sleeping habits, you will be in a more stable position to cope.

  • Changing schools can be stressful. It sounds cliche, but joining a club or team is the fastest way to get settled & meet people.

  • Moving to a new town? Try to research it in advance (available resources, where to get groceries) so you feel more prepared.

  • Changing jobs? Nervous? @lifehacker put together a great list of tips for surviving your first day at a new office.

  • If you are starting at a new school, ask for a tour or "sneak peek" before you start so you can get the lay of the land.

  • Whether you're starting a new school or a new job, feeling confident is important. Go in looking your best.

  • Take your time adjusting to the change, don't pressure yourself just because someone else seems to be adjusting quickly.

  • When coping with change, it's important to have an "escape". Think of a hobby that can distract you.

  • Talk to a friend about your fear of change. They might be able offer a different & more positive perspective on the situation.

  • New school? Know that Guidance dept. peeps are the keepers of a lot of info & can be a "go-to" for good advice & help.