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Coping with Change and Transition
#Change can be hard. Follow #mymTips for some insight into how you can cope and maybe even thrive during transitions!
When facing a transition, make a list of things you can and can't control. Carry it with you as a reminder or "perspective check".
Lack of communication leads to fear. When change happens, ask questions & keep communication lines open.
To cope with change, plan some self-care activities along the way. eg "Today I'll pack my desk & then treat myself to ice cream!".
List the fears you have about change. For each, think "How likely is this? What can I control? What will I do if this happens?".
Be an active part of the change that is happening. Commit to joining a new group, leading an activity, researching what's next.
Change is disruptive. Why might this be a good thing? eg: "We have to move, but our old home was too far from school anyway".
When a big change is happening, focusing on the day-to-day and something you can control can help you cope and distract you.
Starting at a new school? Do some research to get ready! Find out what books are covered, what sports, teams, clubs are there.
"Growth is painful, change is painful, but nothing is as painful as staying stuck somewhere you don't belong." - Mandy Hale
Making time for relaxation in your daily routine can be helpful in coping with change. eg: yoga, a mindful walk, meditation.
When applicable, set SMART (Specific, Measurable, Achievable, Realistic, Time-oriented) goals to consciously guide the change.
It's okay to feel overwhelmed and anxious about change. Acknowledge, not avoid, these feelings so that you can work through them.
Reassure yourself throughout the change, eg: "I may not like this change, but I can get through it!".
Seek out people who have experienced/are experiencing a similar change and transition, see what did and didn't help them.
Starting a new semester at school? Scan their social media profiles to find out about that school's culture & strengths.
Change comes in all sizes, don't be afraid to seek professional help just because your situation doesn't seem "severe enough".
Carry affirmations in your wallet for when change becomes overwhelming, eg; "I've survived changes before and I can do it again."
"Progress is impossible without change and those who cannot change their minds cannot change anything." -George Bernard Shaw
Learn deep-breathing techniques for when change feels overwhelming: inhale 4 sec, hold for 7, exhale for 8.
During a change or transition, journal about what you're finding helpful so you can refer to it next time you're struggling.
Take care of yourself during change, by staying on top of your sleeping habits, you will be in a more stable position to cope.
Changing schools can be stressful. It sounds cliche, but joining a club or team is the fastest way to get settled & meet people.
Moving to a new town? Try to research it in advance (available resources, where to get groceries) so you feel more prepared.
Changing jobs? Nervous? @lifehacker put together a great list of tips for surviving your first day at a new office.
If you are starting at a new school, ask for a tour or "sneak peek" before you start so you can get the lay of the land.
Whether you're starting a new school or a new job, feeling confident is important. Go in looking your best.
Take your time adjusting to the change, don't pressure yourself just because someone else seems to be adjusting quickly.
When coping with change, it's important to have an "escape". Think of a hobby that can distract you.
Talk to a friend about your fear of change. They might be able offer a different & more positive perspective on the situation.
New school? Know that Guidance dept. peeps are the keepers of a lot of info & can be a "go-to" for good advice & help.
These tips were originally posted on our Twitter account under the hashtag #mymTips with a different topic each month. Follow us on Twitter to see a new tip each day, or visit the wellness section on our website next month to see the set posted in full.