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Letting Go of the Past and Moving Forward
Are you struggling to let go of the past and move forward? These tips will help you through this difficult process.
Mistakes are a way to learn as we grow. Reflecting on past mistakes to make different decisions in the future can be beneficial!
Memories fade for a reason and details are forgotten. That mistake you made back then might be distorted over time. Self talk: "I made that mistake. It's over. There's nothing I can do but move forward."
"Tomorrow is always fresh, with no mistakes in it." - Lucy Maud Montgomery, Anne of Green Gables
Worrying is a trigger that tells you to fix something. Try making a plan (step by step) to identify and attempt to resolve those issues.
Talk face to face with someone who has bothered you rather than through text or email...You will walk away feeling better about the conversation.
If you find yourself dwelling on something, give yourself a time limit: "I will give this worry 10 minutes of my time, and then I'm done." Distract yourself with something new once the time is up.
Plan out some healthy, positive, self care goals to complete this week. Write them down where you can see them or program alerts on your phone. This will help you focus on the good in your life.
Feel like you need closure but no longer have contact with someone? Write a letter to them and destroy it afterwards. Or talk out loud as if they are in the room with you. It's weird but might work!
Reflect on situations that have resulted in hurt feelings, is there anything you could have done differently? You can't change the past but you can learn from it.
It's natural for our minds to relive the past. When this happens acknowledge the memory, forgive yourself, and refocus your attention to the here and now.
Are you surrounded by an environment, things or people that remind you of your past? Try to change it up; spend time in different places, donate things linked to bad memories and try to widen your social circle.
The pain you are feeling right now will pass. Pain is a sign of growth. It will get better.
Don't dwell on the negative aspects of the past, instead focus on what is positive about the present. Try making a list of a few things in your life you are grateful for.
If the uncertainty of the future is making you anxious, you might need some mindfulness techniques to help focus on the here and now so you can focus on doing your best today.
Letting go can be difficult, this guided meditation can make the process a bit easier.
Is there someone who encourages and supports you? Take some time to thank them, whether it's a thank you card, surprise picnic or a big hug. Focusing on the positive will take your mind off the negative for a while.
Part of moving forward is trying new things. During this process remind yourself that there is no right or wrong way to do anything. If you find a way that works for you, go for it!
Your inner critic can be mean! Fight back and challenge your thoughts: "I know that I'm great at these three things!" Having a more balanced view of yourself will help you move on with confidence.
Are you overwhelmed by the thought of moving on? Make a plan of action and break big steps into smaller steps. Try to do something each day to get you a little closer to your goals.
Part of moving forward is making choices that are right for you. If you struggle to make decisions here are some tips.
You are the only person who has to live your life. You have control over your actions. Do what's right for you regardless of what people say. Doing something to gain approval will not make you happy in the long run.
Sometimes fear can hold us back. Reflect on your fears: "What's the worst thing that could happen? What's the best thing that could happen?" Plan how you will deal with fear and then push through.
Moving forward is hard work. Do the people around you bring you down or pump you up? If they bring you down, find some positive people to surround yourself with.
Recognize that everyone is doing the best they can. If someone failed you or you failed yourself recognize the effort and readjust your expectations. This will help you forgive yourself and others.
Think about what you want to achieve in life. Try focusing on one goal at a time and break it into smaller steps. Having something to work towards will help you move forward.
When you feel overwhelmed by change, don't give up; take a break instead. Engage in activities that are comforting and allow you to recharge.
Focus on what you enjoy and try to determine if there is a way to make it a bigger part of your life. Do you like hanging out with adventurous people? Start rock climbing. Like cooking? Find a community kitchen or cooking class.
Instead of focusing on what you can't do, focus on what you can do. This will help you feel like you are making progress.
If you feel stuck, confused and overwhelmed, take a short, brisk walk. The excercise and fresh air will do you good. You might be able to think more clearly afterwards.
Self doubt can get in the way. Just remember you have what it takes to get through hard times and succeed. Here is a quick yoga sequence to pump yourself up!
These tips were originally posted on our Twitter account under the hashtag #mymTips with a different topic each month. Follow us on Twitter to see a new tip each day, or visit the wellness section on our website next month to see the set posted in full.