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Self care for LGBTQ youth and allies

Coming out should be on the person's own terms. Nobody else's. Respect your friend or loved ones' wishes on when and who they come out to.

Asexual: a person who identifies as asexual generally doesn't feel sexual attraction or a desire for sexuality with others.

Being an ally means being respectful and compassionate, validating their feelings, offering support when it is needed, and listening so they feel heard. How else could you be an LGBTQ+ ally?

Gender Non Conforming: a person who does not fit in with traditional and societal expectations of a certain gender. They don't identify or express themselves as being male or female.

If you are having to constantly conceal your identity or sexual orientation, it can be draining. Find people and places you can be your genuine self around. You deserve to live your life as YOU.

Unfollow any social media or news outlets that may be toxic or harmful to your mental health! Instead follow outlets that celebrate self-expression and the LGBTQ+ community.

It's okay to feel confused about who you're interested in. There's no rush to figure things out-- so be patient with yourself. Allow yourself the time to reflect and to experiment if you're comfortable.

Intersex: a person is intersex if they are born with a reproductive or sexual anatomy that doesn't fit with society's definition of male or female.

Express yourself! Wear whatever makes you comfortable and confident, no matter if it's a certain colour, style or for a particular sex.

Pansexual: a person who identifies as pansexual feels sexual attraction towards individuals no matter their sex, gender or gender identity.

If you are having a difficult time coping, you're not alone. There is hope and there is help available. Talk to a guidance counsellor, visit services on your campus or call a helpline to find resources in your area.

Make it a habit of using a person's preferred pronouns. It may seem like a simple task but it makes people feel respected! If you're not sure what pronoun to use, simply ask!

Being around people who share similar identities or feelings can help us to feel less alone. Are there any LGBTQ+ youth groups in your community you could join? If not, think about starting your own at your school or university.

Coming out can be an incredibly difficult or scary experience. But it can also be liberating! 

Gender fluid: a person who is gender fluid identifies as a mix of both genders. Their gender identity can vary and change-- they may present themselves as female one day or male the next, or even a mix of both!

Two-spirit: a person who is two-spirit possesses characteristics or fulfills roles of both genders. It is a term traditionally used by Indigenous peoples.

Are you unsure of how to help a friend who is struggling with their gender identity or sexual orientation? Sometimes all you need to do is to sit back and listen. Ask them how you could be of support!

Just because someone is already out doesn't mean they are an expert on the subject. Each person's journey is different and that's ok! Learn from each person's experience and apply what makes sense for you.

LGBTQ+ are at higher risk than their hetorsexual peers to engage in risk taking behaviours, such as drugs or alcohol. Ensure to talk with young people not only about their sexuality but about other activities they may be taking part in.

Using LGBTQ+ social networking apps can be a great way to make connections in your community. Keep in mind that people can be different online vs in person. Be safe!

FtM / F2M; MtF / M2F: are commonly used abbreviations, they stand for: female-to-male transgender or transsexual person; male-to-female transgender or transsexual person.

Ze/Hir: are alternative pronouns that are gender neutral. They are pronounced "zee" and "here", and replace “he”/”she” and “his”/”hers”.These pronouns may be preferred by gender non-conforming people, but for others they may not!

#DYK PFLAG is an international organization that brings together LGBTQ+ youth, their families and allies to advance equality, support education and advocacy. Join the conversation by being part of your local chapter!

Hearing from other people about their coming out stories can be empowering. Sometimes all you need to know is that you aren't alone! www.itgetsbetter.org/stories

Taking care of your sexual health is necessary. Both LGBTQ+ and heterosexual people need to be sexually responsible- there are risks for everyone! Be safe, get tested and protect yourself!

LGBTQQIA+: is an acronym used to refer to not all but many of the sexual minorities. It refers to “Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, Transgender, Queer, Intersex, and Asexual. The + sign symbolizes that many other sexual orientations/gender identities exist.