Self Harm and Coping Tips

Tips about self harm and healthy Coping Skills.

  • Check out the blog Daisies and Bruises for beautiful writing about surviving the impulse to hurt yourself.

  • If a loved one struggles with self harm get informed about why this might be & how to help.

  • Do an activity that will occupy your thoughts and use your physical energy, such as going for a walk or run.

  • From Daisies and Bruises "Talk to someone, cry, scream, whimper, holler, write, play music, run, dance, or tear up pieces of paper."

  • Sometimes we have urges for different reasons, try to narrow yours down & see what coping skills might be best for that urge.

  • Squeeze, knead or smooth clay, play-doh, or a stress ball to relieve tension and to avoid self harm.

  • Self Harm is not about attention-seeking or just a weird phase. Learn more here.

  • Keep a helpline number with you at all times if you need somebody to talk to instead of turning to selfharm.

  • Remember that you've been though tough times before, and you've made it through.

  • Carry an object with you, like a smooth stone, a fidget toy or play-doh to focus on if you feel like you're going to self harm.

  • Think about how others impact you. Who escalates the problem and who makes you feel better?

  • Write on your palm using your fingertip. Focus on the sensation and use it to ground yourself.

  • Create a Coping Skills Toolbox, decorate it, write down things that help you cope when you're feeling overwhelmed/stressed/sad.

  • Finish the sentence: "I feel _______" and know that whatever the answer is, it's not "wrong". No feeling is "wrong".

  • Every morning, tell yourself "I love you. I'm sorry. I forgive you. Thank you." Practice gratitude and forgiveness.

  • Write out what you're feeling when the urge to self harm arises. You might be surprised how it can help relieve some negativity.

  • Do some deep belly breaths, in and out 5 times. You can do it, you can get past these feelings you are having.

  • Make an actual list of your strengths to post where you can see it. Add to it as you discover more about yourself.

  • If you're feeling the urge to self harm, get an ice cube and hold it in your hand. It can distract and/or relieve the compulsion.

  • Download the Be SafeApp to help make a Crisis Plan and access resources you need to get help.

  • From Daisies and Bruises "Self expression is the answer to stopping self harm".

  • Crying is our body's way of dealing with feelings. Tears are cathartic and healing sometimes. Let it out.

  • Treat yourself to some compliments! Use social media to ask people you know & trust to explain what they like best about you.

  • Some non-judgmental self-talk can help if you self harm. Ask yourself "Why are you doing this? What can I do next time?".

  • Reward yourself when you've had a good day and avoided Self Harm! Safety is a good reason to celebrate.

  • You can overcome the impulse to hurt yourself. Find out the 6 reasons why Daisies and Bruises stopped.

  • Be aware of potential triggers. Knowing them can be a step towards protecting yourself.

  • Find 10 new wellness tips to try. Track your progress in a journal or calendar on Mind Your Mood.

  • Tip from Daisies and Bruises: When feelings get to be too much, and all else fails, scream onto the page.

  • Before you Self Harm or use substances, ask: Am I Hungry? Angry? Lonely? Tired?

  • Message or call someone before you Self Harm. Taking a minute to delay & distract can be all it takes to quiet the impulse.